Like elbows and ears, everyone has them. Unless of course, one is born into a differently-abled body, or loses them in an accident, in which case one has a different set of problems, like where to hang the earrings. But today’s politically incorrect blog post isn’t about either of those things. It’s about the 99 problems and 69 solutions I have which leaves me with 29 unresolved issues. I’m aware that doesn’t add up correctly but I’m a writer, not a mathematician, and it’s not important anyway. Don’t worry. I will not subject you to a numbered list, or any gory details, but there will be a representative sample discussed by way of illustration of tonight’s existential inquiry into the nature of problem resolution.
There are so many problems that can be solved with the liberal application of time, money, and elbow grease, mixed up and applied with a creative hand. However, there are, unfortunately, some problems that have no solution. I am often, and currently, frustrated because I don’t always know which problems fall into that category. Countless times, I have beaten myself bloody in a futile attempt to fix, solve or change someone or something that I can’t fix, solve or change. Sometimes the logical course of action is surrender and acceptance.
Here’s the example I warned you about. Yesterday I was sitting in the same seat I am in now, writing a blog post, in my blog editor, when I noticed something weird on the screen. I took action, then, insert mysterious technological hiccup, the post was gone. I had just lost 30 minutes of work. Could I have dug around and brought it back? Maybe. Probably not. Earlier in the day I had a long computer chat with a Microsoft representative who had to take control of my computer remotely to fix a problem I had spent two hours trying to fix myself. I was tired and ready for bed, so I powered it all down and here I am, almost a full day later with a new and different post. Yeah, I wasn’t about to recreate that hot mess! I’m OK about it now, but at the time, the situation was bleak indeed.
Where is the magical spot in the road where it’s clear that we must step back and take a different route, or just abandon a pointless struggle?
It depends on the circumstances.
And don’t that just suck?!
Welcome to life. It’s not fair, or easy. But it’s all we’ve got.
This is the part where I dispense basic practical advice. It can be useful to do a post-mortem, (or a case study if you prefer a different metaphor) on problems and solutions you’ve had in order to learn from your mistakes and successes. I also recommend continuing education, formal or otherwise, to prepare for future problems.
This is the part where I remind you of what you already know, and get a little mushy. Life isn’t easy or fair, but it’s all we’ve got. Do your best. Ask for help when you need it. Trust that time and effort will take you where you need to go. I wish you safe travels through this world, few problems, and abundant solutions.